Most people realize there’s abuse, when they’re being hit, cut, slapped, etc. What about the more subtle forms of abuse, though?
Do you recognize it as abuse when your activities are restricted, when you have to account for every minute you’re gone, when it’s made difficult for you to see your friends and family, when you’re accused of ulterior motives if you smile at someone? Those are controlling forms of abuse, meant to intimidate and isolate you.
Do you recognize it as abuse when you’re being yelled at, called names, belittled, and/or shamed? Those are forms of verbal abuse, meant to make you feel bad about yourself, to lower your self-esteem, and make you more vulnerable.
Do you recognize it as abuse when your needs and desires aren’t respected and honored? What if you’re told how you must dress or wear your hair, do you see that as controlling? How about when you’re emotionally pressured to have sex, or to have sex in a way that makes you uneasy?
If you’re interested in learning more, I wrote a 4-part series earlier about Domestic Violence (part 1, part 2, part 3, part 4). Often, controlling behaviors can escalate into physical abuse over time. It’s important to recognize them as red flags. Please get educated about all the different forms of abuse, so that you can recognize it if it’s happening in your own relationship. Please help me get the word our to others that might need help!
Until next time,