Many of the women I’ve seen in my office have missed the loving guidance they needed while growing up. Their moms weren’t there for them, in the way they needed to be, and my clients have felt their absence deeply! Important nurturing didn’t happen. For a variety of reasons, their mothers just weren’t available, able, or willing.
Their stories vary. Sometimes, they’ve lost their mothers through death. Sometimes, it’s been because of a severe physical, emotional, or mental illness. Other times, there have been addiction issues. At times, it’s been because their moms didn’t get the mothering they needed. They couldn’t give what they didn’t have.
Whatever the reason, my clients have had every right to grieve for what was lost, for the needs that were never met. I help them to grieve, but after awhile, I start helping them to not get stuck in their grieving!
If you didn’t get the mothering you needed, look around for women who have qualities you admire. What can you learn from them? How might they guide and teach you? Find ways to get to know them. Let them learn to care for you. In time, if you are open to receiving the gifts they have for you, these women can help you grow and blossom!
It’s never too late to soak in the mothering you’ve missed! “Mothers” come in many disguises. Learn to recognize and give thanks for them, wherever and whenever you find them!
Until next time,