This time of year can mean different things to different people. It can be a joyous time spent with friends and family, eating lots of delicious food, made with love. But it can also be a lonely time spent focused on the sorrows of life, thinking about all of the things you don’t have. If … Read More
I so often find myself sitting in my Santa Barbara office, talking with a client about how hard she is on herself. Clients come to see me because they’re unhappy in some way. They may be struggling with depression, anxiety, relationship issues, or a myriad of other “problems.” Their issues may be situational, or in … Read More
Our world can be very cruel, and so often we don’t know what sorrows others may be carrying. When we spread kindness, it can heal a wounded heart, or give someone the courage to continue moving forward, or simply let another know we care. We all need kindness, whether we’re struggling or not. We need … Read More
Our lives tell our stories! Most stories have lots of plot twists and turns. Each time that there’s a shift, there’s an opportunity to head in a new direction. I took this picture of a beautiful tree in a park in West Linn, OR. I could have focused on the whole tree, but I was … Read More
I talk so often to my clients about the value of really being present for each precious moment. This moment will never come again, and it’s meant to be cherished. When we’re feeling emotional about something that’s happened in the past, or worried about something that might happen in the future, we’re missing the actual … Read More
There’s a certain comfort in staying with the familiar, no matter how unhappy we might be. We know how to navigate around familiar situations. Finding the courage to step into the unknown isn’t easy! We can find all kinds of reasons to stay with what is. It’s temporarily comforting to lean into our defense mechanisms … Read More
