Life’s Lessons

September 15, 2016anxiety, choices, empowerment, resiliency

This quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson is all about freedom.  It’s about the freedom to make mistakes, to learn from them, and  to grow with each experience.  It’s not about standing on the sidelines of life.  It’s about taking chances.  It’s about stepping out from behind your  fear of doing something wrong, and celebrating your … Read More

Here’s What to Do When You Can’t Sleep

September 8, 2016anxiety, blessings, fears, sleep issues

I so often encourage my clients to focus on what they’re grateful for, instead of always focusing on what isn’t going right in their lives.  The other night, I was having trouble sleeping.  My mind was stuck on worry about an elderly friend who has been very ill for quite awhile.  I wrote about her … Read More

Life’s Tragedy Isn’t Always Seen

August 26, 2016change, choices, empowerment, self-image, self-talk

As a Santa Barbara counselor, I often sit with people who have settled for “what is,” instead of “what could be.” They’re unhappy.  They’ve lost their zest for life.  There’s no sparkle of enthusiasm in their eyes.  At some point they’ve turned away from their passions, away from their hopes and dreams. There are lots … Read More

Our Reality Is Created by Our View of It

July 24, 2016communication problems, couple's therapy, empowerment, marital therapy, stress management

This quote, found in the Talmud, helps us understand that there can be many different realities.  Each person views what is happening through their own unique perception, which is molded by all of their previous life experiences. It’s almost like wearing different tinted sunglasses.  For someone wearing sunglasses with a blue tint, things will have … Read More

The Purpose of Life!

June 23, 2016anxiety, change, empowerment, fears, well-being

Eleanor Roosevelt’s quote is all about empowerment.  So many of us either consciously, or unconsciously, decide to play it safe.  We don’t want to take chances.  We don’t want to risk disappointment or failure.  But when we play it safe, we miss so much!  We miss opportunities for growth and adventure, among other things. We … Read More