How many times have you thought that if your husband, or wife, or partner would just stop doing the same irritating things over and over, everything would be fine? Couples often come to see me, or another therapist, because they’re tired of the constant fighting! When we first meet, I always ask each person how … Read More
This is a photo of my stepfather. It was taken several years ago, when he was still physically and mentally able to take care of his house and yard. Unfortunately, time has taken away a lot of his abilities. At 89, he is now needing a lot of help to do the simplest of tasks. … Read More
This picture is of a beautiful Japanese Magnolia, blooming at our Santa Barbara courthouse. I photographed it a couple weeks ago, during a walk in the sunken gardens at the courthouse. I always feel comforted by the beauty of nature. I’ve written many times before about the power of nature to soothe our stresses away, … Read More
Sometimes we just have a feeling that change is coming. There’s nothing specific that we can put our finger on. It’s just a knowing. Other times we’re at a crossroads, and we know that we have to choose one path or the other. Change is a constant! Nothing — and no one — stays the … Read More
In Greek mythology, Sisyphus spent an eternity struggling over and over to push a giant boulder uphill, only to see it always come rolling back down. Does this feel like what you’re doing in your life? Are you struggling with the same old things over and over? Lots of us do that! It isn’t easy … Read More
The new year that’s coming in a couple days is a great opportunity for a fresh start. Sometimes it feels like we need a clean slate, so that we can symbolically have a new beginning. January 1st provides that image for many of us. I’ve never particularly liked making New Year’s resolutions. They too often … Read More
