Right now, there are two people close to me, who are struggling with extremely serious health issues. It tears at my heart that I can’t do anything to “fix” them. I love them both! I have to trust that they’re receiving the best medical care. I have to believe that the professionals overseeing this care … Read More
Do you feel like you have to say “Yes” to any request that’s made of you? If your life feels like it’s out of control, you may be agreeing to do more than you really want to. Why? Think about a time that you said “Yes,” when you wanted to say “No.” What were your … Read More
If you have children, what are your thoughts about how they learn from you? So many of us think that children learn how to behave from our lectures and verbal teachings. That’s only part of the story, though. Our kids are always watching and listening, even when we have no idea that they are at … Read More
I often hear my Santa Barbara therapy clients talk about themselves in very negative terms! I hear them say something similar to, “I am just so stupid. I can’t do anything right.” If they’re saying it in session, I can’t help but wonder how often they say it otherwise — and how much it’s coloring … Read More
“When we listen, we offer with our attention an opportunity for wholeness. Our listening creates a sanctuary for the homeless parts within the other person. That which has been denied, unloved, devalued by themselves and others. That which is hidden…Listening creates a holy silence. When you listen generously to people, they can hear truth in … Read More
