This time of year can mean different things to different people. It can be a joyous time spent with friends and family, eating lots of delicious food, made with love. But it can also be a lonely time spent focused on the sorrows of life, thinking about all of the things you don’t have. If … Read More
I so often find myself sitting in my Santa Barbara office, talking with a client about how hard she is on herself. Clients come to see me because they’re unhappy in some way. They may be struggling with depression, anxiety, relationship issues, or a myriad of other “problems.” Their issues may be situational, or in … Read More
There’s a certain comfort in staying with the familiar, no matter how unhappy we might be. We know how to navigate around familiar situations. Finding the courage to step into the unknown isn’t easy! We can find all kinds of reasons to stay with what is. It’s temporarily comforting to lean into our defense mechanisms … Read More
We can create our own sunshine by focusing our minds on happy thoughts! The more we begin to look for the positive things in our lives, the easier it will get. Even on bad days there are good moments. We may have to look harder to find them, but they’re almost always there. Human nature … Read More
In one form or another, the idea that “I feel like a fraud” is something I’ve heard many times in my office through the years. My clients can be so hard on themselves! But it’s not just my clients. Feeling like we aren’t really who we pretend to be, is a feeling that we can … Read More
When things in our lives aren’t working, we want them to change — now! We determine what needs to happen to bring about that change. We make resolutions to lose weight, start exercising, become organized, eat healthy, get more sleep, improve relationships, etc. We set ourselves up for failure by deciding to make changes … Read More
