I so often find myself sitting in my Santa Barbara office, talking with a client about how hard she is on herself. Clients come to see me because they’re unhappy in some way. They may be struggling with depression, anxiety, relationship issues, or a myriad of other “problems.” Their issues may be situational, or in … Read More
In one form or another, the idea that “I feel like a fraud” is something I’ve heard many times in my office through the years. My clients can be so hard on themselves! But it’s not just my clients. Feeling like we aren’t really who we pretend to be, is a feeling that we can … Read More
“We are not broken. We are just unfinished.” by Dawna Markova Are you hard on yourself? I like this quote, because it can help us to look at ourselves in kinder, gentler, more patient ways. It can help us to be less judgmental when we make mistakes. Life is about learning and growing! Being able to stretch our comfort … Read More
How do you think of yourself? Do you see yourself in a positive or negative light? What are the descriptive terms you use in your self-talk? We paint a picture of ourselves with our thoughts, and those thoughts can be supportive — or terribly destructive. It makes me sad when I sit in my office, … Read More
As a Santa Barbara Therapist, I’ve talked with many clients about feelings of guilt and shame. Both are very heavy burdens to carry. They limit our ability to create the lives that we crave. Guilt is a sense that we’ve done something specific that’s wrong. This can be easier to heal than shame. When we … Read More
Self-acceptance is so important for all of us! I’m no exception. I keep setting the intention of consistently writing posts for this blog. But it just doesn’t seem to happen! Although I haven’t yet figured out why it doesn’t, I’m not ready to give up on myself — or on this blog. I could waste … Read More
