This quote, found in the Talmud, helps us understand that there can be many different realities. Each person views what is happening through their own unique perception, which is molded by all of their previous life experiences. It’s almost like wearing different tinted sunglasses. For someone wearing sunglasses with a blue tint, things will have … Read More
You Can Learn How to Create Enriching Relationships!
We have all kinds of relationships in our lives. We have loved ones, good friends, co-workers, acquaintances, etc. The important thing to remember is that healthy, meaningful relationships take time and nurturing. Relationships don’t automatically become, or stay, healthy. I’ve worked with many clients who want close, intimate connections with others, but don’t really know … Read More
Quote of the Week
“Perhaps the most important thing we bring to another person is the silence in us, not the sort of silence that is filled with unspoken criticism or hard withdrawal. The sort of silence that is a place of refuge, of rest, of acceptance of someone as they are. We are all hungry for this other … Read More
Making Assumptions Is Almost Guaranteed to Create Problems!
There’s one commonality in many of the couples that I’ve worked with through the years, and that’s the tendency to make assumptions. I’ve heard so many say, “I just assumed …” Many times their joint patterns of making assumptions have created a lot of problems for them, and for their relationships! An important part of … Read More
October Is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month
Almost two years ago, I wrote a 4 part series on domestic violence. I wish I could say that the violence has diminished since then, but it hasn’t. I want to run that series again, so that hopefully others who need the information will have it. Victims of domestic violence can be women or men, … Read More
Do You Just Keep Having the Same Fights Over and Over?
How many times have you thought that if your husband, or wife, or partner would just stop doing the same irritating things over and over, everything would be fine? Couples often come to see me, or another therapist, because they’re tired of the constant fighting! When we first meet, I always ask each person how … Read More