As a Santa Barbara therapist, I often find myself sitting across the room from clients who are so hard on themselves. They have come to see me because they’re unhappy in some way. They may be struggling with depression, anxiety, relationship issues, or a myriad of other “problems.” Their issues may be situational, or in … Read More
Lately, I’ve been very busy getting ready to take a trip back to Illinois. It’s where I grew up. There’s a part of me that’s still a “Midwestern girl,” although I’ve lived in California for many, many years, and love it here. I’m leaving this Saturday, and I’ll be gone for two weeks. I expect … Read More
As a therapist in Santa Barbara, one of my favorite things is helping my clients’ increase their self-esteem! So often when they start therapy, they see little of their own value. If I ask them to tell me what they like about themselves, they have to really think before they can come up with one … Read More
How do you feel about your own aging? Is it something that you struggle with, or are you dealing with it from a place of calm acceptance, and even sometimes with a sense of humor? With aging, comes wisdom from various life lessons, but it also can challenge us in many ways. It can bring … Read More
“It’s amazing how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you’re not comfortable with yourself, you can’t be comfortable with others.” ~ Sydney J. Harris *Quote found in Wisdom Quotes
Your perception creates your reality! If you see yourself as being old, having little purpose, and not being valued like you were in your earlier days, you will begin to focus on the things that seem to validate this view of yourself. A mindset like this can lead to isolation, loneliness, lethargy, and eventually to … Read More
