“Throughout our lives, we long to love ourselves more deeply and to feel connected with others. Instead, we often contract, fear intimacy, and suffer a bewildering sense of separation. We crave love, and yet we’re lonely. Our delusion of being separate from one another, of being apart from all that is around us, gives rise to all of this pain.” ~ Sharon Salzberg
* Quote found in Wisdom Quotes
I find that when I arrive to places early enough to mingle before an event, even though I usually don’t want to, it gets me feeling more a part of. When I arrive by the skin of my teeth, I’m often fragmented and my communication skills diminish leaving me with a sense of loneliness. Moral: it’s quite practical.. Leave earlier than I think I need to and be a joiner.
That’s a good idea, Cindy! Sometimes we have to push through our natural resistance in order to leave our comfort zone and grow. It can be challenging to walk into a room full of people we don’t know. If we’re also worrying about being late, it might feel even more difficult. Sometimes, though, we have an unconscious desire to avoid something, so becoming aware is the first step in changing. Thanks for your comment.
I’m the Queen when it comes to being in a house full of people and still feeling so alone, it never goes away……
Thank you for sharing your feelings, Laurel. I appreciate the trust. I don’t know where you live, but please call a professional for some help and guidance. It’s hard to always feel alone and lonely. You deserve to feel a sense of connection and belonging!