Do you feel lonely sometimes? An occasional sense of loneliness isn’t anything to be too concerned about, but what if you quite often feel sad and lonely?
Many of my clients have talked with me about their loneliness. It can be challenging to meet new people, and everyone they know seems so busy all the time. They’ve given up on trying to get together with their friends, because they can never get their schedules to match. Many people are just stretched too thin already, trying to juggle too many responsibilities. Others may not be prioritizing their friendships enough to make the time to get together.
Social media and texting have also brought many changes to relationships. We’re all in touch with more people than we ever have been before, but what about the quality and depth of those contacts? Creating posts, and making comments on other posts, on Facebook isn’t the same as sitting down with a good friend over lunch or dinner, and really talking. Sending texts back and forth to someone isn’t the same as going for a walk and sharing thoughts and feelings.
Do you have some ideas on how to start turning things around? Have you tried some things that have helped you connect more with others? I would love to get feedback on this!
I’ve talked with clients about the benefit of leaving their comfort zone in order to meet new people. That might mean trying new activities, or doing some kind of volunteer work, or joining new groups, or taking classes, etc.
They might, also, benefit from having some honest communication with the friends they already have. If they aren’t receptive, it might be time to re-evaluate those friendships.
Another thought is that we all need to occasionally look at how good a friend we are to others. Are we good listeners? Are we there for our friends when they need us? Are we willing to be flexible? Do we keep confidences? These are just some of the important qualities in being a good friend to someone.
I hope my thoughts on how to bring more connection into your life starts you thinking. We all need a sense of belonging. Feeling alone in our world, does not feel good.
I’ve started a women’s group recently as one way to create a sense of connection for the members. If you’re in the general Santa Barbara area, and this sounds like something you might be interested in, please give me a call at 805-569-0264 or email: firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.
Until next time,