This can be a magical time of the year! It can also be a time when the pain of the past settles in on you, and creates a profound heartache. When that happens, it can feel like you’re the only one who isn’t caught up in happy celebrating. Feeling alone only adds to your sorrow.
It’s important to feel your feelings, and not stuff them, or deny they exist. It’s also important to not give them more power over you than is necessary. Feeling sad for part of a day is very different from feeling sad for days on end. If you need help, please reach out for it!
Allow yourself to have a simpler holiday season if that’s what feels the most comfortable to you. Don’t force yourself to put on a mask of merriment, and try to meet others’ expectations. Be gentle and nurturing with yourself. Connect with those who will support and accept you as you are. Try to focus on the blessings that you do have in your life. Believe it or not, they’re there if you look hard enough.
Remember that the sadness you are feeling right now will begin to lift in time. Be patient with yourself. This heartache will pass. Life will start to ease, and you will find your joy and peace again.
Until next time,